Dave Bourdon
is a professional writer whose
interest in NDE's began with
process of writing a screenplay
about a politician who has a
near-death experience.  This
path led to IANDS, and a
transformative path that resulted
in his writing the NDE Paradigm  
http://www.nde-paradigm.com,
a spiritual compass based on the
highest wisdom of NDErs.  
Dave has fa ciliated the East Bay
group for two years, and
stresses that Berkeley IANDS
meetings welcome not just
NDErs, but all those interested
in the life-altering effect of this
phenome
non.
David Bourdon, Berkeley
Sandy Wright, El Cerrito
Sandy Wright MFT
has been a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California since 1983.  She received her
undergraduate degree from U.C. Berkeley and her graduate degree from Chapman University.
She has worked in the field of addictions and grief and
Therapist at Alta Bates-Summit Medical Center in Oakland.  Her interest and involvement
with IANDS began in 1988 after reading Raymond Moody's book Life After Life.  She lives
in Berkeley, and has a private practice there.
Don Murdoch co-facilitator
San Francisco-Bay
Who We Are
Don Murdoch:  

I discovered "Saved by the light" author Dannion Brinkley, in 1995 and was very drawn to it, and felt that I had come across
something extremely important.
I started attending the IANDS meetings in Mesa Arizona after hearing some Near- Death Experiencers speak in Scottsdale.
I joined IANDS and became a member. I have since attended the chapter meetings every month. I have been to four International
conferences in the past 12 years, 1998 (Salt Lake) 2000 (Seattle) 2003 (Honolulu) and 2005 (Virginia Beach) Upon returning to the
San Francisco Bay Area,in 1998.
I became a regular Attendee and Volunteer at the San Francisco-Bay Chapter meeting, hosted by Nadia McCaffrey.
Nadia encouraged me to take a "Hospice" training through a group called "Compassion In Action" and I subsequently worked with
several people with terminal illnesses, helping in any way I could. In 1997.
I discovered the books "Conversations with God " and hosted a study group in San Mateo for a couple of years, also I attended
several retreats with the author Neale Donald Walsch, mostly in Oregon from 1999 to 2003.
The Greatest Gift

© By Kenneth Ring, Ph.D.


In the course of more than twenty years of research into near-death experiences (NDE's), I have met innumerable persons who have had Node's
who had been moved  to want to share their experiences with dying patients. Many of them accordingly come to spend some time working as
volunteers for hospices, and in that setting they have something unique and uniquely valuable to  contribute to the patients to whom they minister.

It isn't just their telling of their NDE, though of course that can often be a part of what my friends are prepared to share. More significant, I think, is
what a near-death experiencer is rather than what he or she knows that is the vital message that is transmitted. Near-death experiencers are at
ease about death, and this is what is communicated when they work with dying patients. I remember a near-death experiencer who told me that
although she had been involved in hospice work for nineteen years, she had found only four occasions when it seemed appropriate to mention her
NDE  to her patients. Instead, she shared her being, not her story, and that, apparently, told her story in another way.

What near-death experiencers have absorbed into themselves and what they transmit to their  patients is "the peace that passeth all
understanding." If you read accounts of Node's, you will easily understand the depth of this feeling of peace that comes with the experience of dying
and why it is  that near-death experiencers are uniquely qualified to transmit this knowledge directly to the dying person. Listen to just a couple of
these testimonies on this point.

One woman told me that when she found  herself in the light, "the feeling just became more and more and more ecstatic and glorious and perfect....
If you took the one thousand best things that ever happened to you in your life and multiplied by a  million, maybe you could get close to this feeling."
Another man wrote, "then there was peace."
Peace -- in order to give an idea of what one means by that, the letters would have to be written thousands of miles high in soft glowing colors . . . It
is a  complete happiness, total happiness, beyond the realm of happiness."

Then, there is the absorption into the light that conveys a feeling of absolute love, total acceptance, unconditional forgiveness, universal knowledge
and complete perfection. As one man put it, "I just immediately went into this beautiful bright light. It was a total immersion in light, brightness,
warmth, peace and security. It's something, which becomes you and you become it. I could say, 'I was peace, I was love, I was the brightness.' It
was part of me. You just know. You're all-knowing, and everything is a part of you. It's just so beautiful. It was eternity. It's like I was always there, and
I will always be there, and that my existence on earth was just a brief instant.

The physicist, David Bohm, said that the energy of the universe  is not a neutral energy but an energy of love, and the near-death experiencer returns
from his or her encounter with death, not just to confirm Bohm's intuition but to communicate it to others. This is the message  that those who have
already died have to give to those who are about to die.

Studies have shown that the personal presence of near-death experiencers and the stories they have to tell have a direct effect on  those dealing
with or facing death. Fear of death is reduced and feelings of comfort and peace are increased. For these reasons, the near-death experiencer is an
ideal midwife to those who are about to make the  transition into death, for they have been there, and they know that what is coming is a glory that
even a Dante would find himself powerless to describe. In consequence, all hospices, it seems to me, should desire to make use of near-death
experiencers in their corps of volunteers.

When we are born, we emerge out of the constriction of the womb and birth canal into the wondrous world of previously unimaginable and virtually
unlimited sensory experience. And when we die, we go through a second birth, which may be even more difficult than the first, and leave the world
we know for another that transcends anything we can conceive where we discover, finally, what it is to be alive. Fully alive, and filled with a radiant joy
"beyond the realm of happiness."

This is the message those who have made the journey have to  tell those who are about to undertake it. It is the greatest gift that they have to share
and, for some, the reason they have returned to life. That's why they have and will continue to have a valued place at the bedside of those who are
beginning to prepare for their departure from the world we will all have to leave behind one day.            

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Kenneth Ring, Ph.D., is the author of various books on Near Death Experiences (NDE), including
Heading Toward Omega and most recently,

Lessons from the Light.
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